Considering Relocating Your Loved One into Your Home?
Once in a while, younger adults return to living in their guardian’s house when they are short of cash. Years later, they turn into the saving grace of their folks.
Being in a house with people of different age groups can be an ideal way to know each other better. It also keeps the folks from feeling lonely. On the flip side though, both of you have different routines and different ways to get things done,and this might cause a little bit of friction. Scarborough Moving Services has the following tips to help all of you live in peace.
Before letting your folks stay in your spare room, ask yourself:
- Ways in which your kids and husband/wife be affected by the decision.
- Will their being around get in the way of your daily routine?
- Is there any lingering misunderstanding?
- Which changes will be made to the house?
- Are you paying for it all, or will someone else from your kin help out?
- Is it within the budget?
- Will the folks need to chip into the bills?
- Do you need to stop working or tweak your routine?
- When it comes to going on holiday, are your folks joining too, or will someone stay with them for the time you are gone?
- Are there issues that need to be addressed such as alcohol in the house or even pets?
- What about habits that annoy you?
- How will boundaries be drawn?
- What are my folk’s thoughts on relocation?
- What is your perception about taking on this new duty?
On the other hand, your folks should also go through the following:
- Will the haul keep them out of reach from everything they loved doing and other people?
- Are there little habits my kid has that I do not like?
- Will I be comfortable around family for an extended period?
- In the event that the house needs a change here and there, so that they can take me in, will I be in a position to chip in?
- Is it possible to get some aid from other people in the family?
- In the event thatmy child has done something that does not sit right with me, can I speak up about it?
- What are my thoughts about being reliant on someone else?
Be open about your expectations when it comes to money, your fears, and any other thing that might be on your mind. You may feel anxious about it, but it is imperative that you get it done. You may also find that this burden eases if you discuss it with each other. Some cues could be:
- Go over any questions that your folk might have, just to ensure you are both on the same page.
- Acknowledge that giving up control is not an easy thing.
- Reassure your parent that they will have their own personal space.
- Come to terms that you have all grown and changed a little, and you might not enjoy the same things you used to, or share the same values.
- Come up with a way to make sure everyone gets their own alone time.
- Keep to the rules of the house.
- Do not tear down each other.
Keep in mind the good things that will come from the move. When you hit a snag, just remember all of these.
Call a meeting and include every person:
- Reassure the kids that they have nothing to do with the fact that their grandparents sometimes have mood swings.
- Just in case your folks are sick, let the kids know that they cannot catch it.
- Make sure that they know it is not their responsibility to look after or fix their grandparents, as much as you ask other family members for a little help.
- Erratic actions from a grandparent might confuse the kids. Sit them down and explain to them how they can handle such an occurrence.
- Make the most of the good days because dementia isn’t always about being angry and gloomy.
Meet with your brothers and sisters:
- Accept the fact that your parents require assistance. This can be hard to deal with, so have an open conversation where everyone can express their feelings.
- You can also enlist the help of a family therapist just in case you feel like this is not a talk you are able to have by yourselves.
- Do not be afraid to request a little aid, be it is with bills, spending time with your folks or even with chores.
The cost of actually moving your parent may be more you could have anticipated. You may, therefore, question if it is really the best thing to do.
Know the amount of cash required to make sure the house will be able to take them in. Know the following:
- Will you be able to house them in the long haul?
- Are they sick or have a condition that will require care?
- Can you be able to ensure that they still have some alone time?
- Do you need some assistance to look after them?
You should also have the following in mind:
- Size is important. Just in case an extra room is needed, remember that comes with additional costs.
- Putting in ramps and making doors bigger to accommodate wheelchairs can be costly.
- Also, think about installing grab bars in your bathrooms, and if necessary, handicapped-friendly toilets and tubs.
You will have to move some items to make space for your folks. This might inconvenience some other family members so you should talk to everyone beforehand. If you have the extra money, try changing the garage into their new place, or even building a separate house on the same land.
We at Scarborough Moving Service know it will take some time for your folks to settle and feel at ease. Therefore, we recommend that you make this easier by showing them where to find certain things and places such as the pharmacy, bank, church, or any other recreational facility. Check out respite services that will help you out in giving full-time care for your loved one.